Family Conflict: Addressing Mom About Misuse...

December 10, 2025

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AITA for paying for my niece’s glasses and contacts against her dad’s wishes?

My 12-year-old niece needed glasses, but her dad only sent $100 and insisted on the cheapest pair. I ended up paying for two pairs she loved and contacts, causing a rift in the household.

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I felt it was right to provide my niece with glasses she loved and contacts, but that decision caused chaos at home.

Haley (12) has four younger siblings, and money is tight in their household. Despite being financially stable, I chose to pay for what I deemed necessary for Haley's vision needs, which led to a conflict with her dad.

"They gave me $100 and told me to get the cheapest pair we can find."

I allowed Haley to try contacts along with choosing two glasses frames she adored. Her dad was upset that I didn't adhere to the cheapest-only rule and demanded restrictions on which pair she could keep.

"He told her she gets to keep one pair of glasses and everything else has to stay at my house."

The situation escalated, leading to Haley staying at my place and her dad expressing discontent with the situation. Family services had to be involved again, and tensions rose among the siblings as well.

🏠 The Aftermath

Haley is currently staying with me due to the conflict at home. Her dad continues to be unhappy about the glasses and contacts situation.

The consequences include renewed scrutiny from child services, disputes over fairness within the family, and strained relationships due to disagreements on prioritizing Haley's needs.