AITA for declining to invite a woman who has called herself ‘a total klepto’ into my home?

February 02, 2026

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AITA for not inviting a self-proclaimed kleptomaniac to my home crafting event?

Joining a women’s social club helped me find friends in my new city, but things turned sour when I excluded a member who openly boasts about being a klepto.

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Initially hesitant in a new city, I found solace in a women’s club. However, a clash arose when I excluded a member who openly flaunts kleptomania.

After joining a women’s social club in a new city, I finally bonded with like-minded individuals who shared my interests in reading, crafting, and stargazing. Among them, named Andea, openly boasts of being a kleptomaniac, which made me uncomfortable.

"I'm a total klepto," is a line I heard too often from Andea, painting a picture I couldn't ignore."

When I organized a cozy gathering at my place for crafts and a TV show, Andea assumed she was invited. I had to make a tough call and inform her that due to limited space, she wasn't included. Her reaction to being excluded escalated quickly into accusations of me being a 'high school mean girl'.

"You're painting me as a criminal, and I thought we got along," was Andea's shocked response to my exclusion.

Defending my decision, I explained that her pride in her kleptomania made me uneasy, given my hard work to build a comfortable home. This confrontation has not only strained our relationship but also caused friction in the entire group.

🏠 The Aftermath

The fallout left tensions within the social group, with some members siding with Andea, defending her boasts of kleptomania as harmless quirks.

Exposing Andea's behavior drew a line in the sand, highlighting differing views on social inclusion and personal boundaries. The rift created has made group events uncomfortable, with discussions veering away from shared interests to personal conflicts.

The aftermath of this incident has revealed underlying tensions among club members and challenged the dynamics of social inclusion within the group.

"Sometimes, maintaining personal boundaries can unintentionally cause group discord."

While I stand by my decision to enforce boundaries in my home, the consequences of excluding Andea have had a wider impact on the social dynamics of the club.