My husband is ending our marriage because we weren’t intimate as often as he wanted, and so far it isn’t going like he planned and I’m not surprised but I am hurt.

October 28, 2025

AITA for separating from my husband over mismatched sex drives after 6 years of marriage?

After 6 years together and 3 years of marriage, my husband and I had a happy life—but our mismatched sex drives caused a breakup. I wanted intimacy once a week; he wanted it more frequently, and it ultimately led to him moving out.

My husband (37) and I (34) shared hobbies, responsibilities, and a loving relationship. We rarely fought, split chores evenly, contributed proportionally to bills, and genuinely enjoyed doing things together. The real problem was a common one: sex. I’m low libido, and once a week was my limit, while he wanted more frequent intimacy. Over time, despite compromise, he became increasingly frustrated, and after six years, admitted he couldn’t be happy like that. This revelation led to our separation.

I’m reflecting on the breakup: we had a happy marriage, shared hobbies, and loved each other, but mismatched desires in the bedroom created a divide I couldn’t bridge. He moved out, sold his car, stored his belongings, and now lives alone in a cramped apartment—while I try to process the absurdity and sadness of the situation.

Now, post-separation, he lives alone in a tiny apartment that doesn’t allow pets, with most of his hobbies in storage and no space for his antique car. I make more than twice his income and was paying most bills; he complains about money. Despite the difficult breakup, I find some ironic humor in the situation, recognizing that he chose this path and now lives with the consequences of his desires.

"Once a week wasn’t good enough, and now he’s miserable in his own apartment."

While I’m still recovering emotionally, I reflect on how our life together was happy in so many ways. The situation shows how mismatched needs, even in a loving partnership, can create significant consequences when compromise isn’t enough for both parties.

"He’s a really good person, but maybe kind of an idiot."

It’s a bittersweet lesson: love, compatibility, and personal needs must align, or even the happiest relationships can reach a breaking point. I continue to process my feelings while hoping he eventually finds contentment in his new life.

🏠 The Aftermath

He’s now living alone in a small, pet-free apartment with minimal possessions, while I remain in the home we shared and continue my normal life. Half his belongings are in storage, and he had to sell his antique car. Both of us are adjusting to our new realities.

Financial differences are more apparent; I earn more and was paying the majority of bills, which adds tension and reflections on lifestyle adjustments post-separation.

Emotionally, I feel a mix of sadness, disbelief, and ironic amusement at the outcome, while he navigates life without the conveniences and joys of our shared home.