AITAH for telling a friend what his wife said about his daughter?

November 29, 2025

AITA for telling my husband’s friend about his wife’s plan to kick their teenage daughter out?

After overhearing my husband’s friend’s wife say she wants their 16-year-old daughter to move out at 18, I shared her plan with him—and now I’m wondering if I crossed a line by not letting my husband handle it.

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I’m married to Vince and have been for 8 years. His friend Brady has a 16-year-old daughter, Cali, who lives mostly with him. Brady’s wife, Morgan, whom I don’t really get along with, recently revealed she plans to force Cali out once she turns 18 by moving to a smaller house. I was uneasy hearing this and ended up telling Brady, which led to tension with my husband.

Vince and I have been married for 8 years, and his friend Brady has a daughter, Cali, who’s 16. Cali lives mainly with Brady and visits her mom on weekends. Brady recently married Morgan, who has another child, and while she says she adores Cali, Morgan and I don't exactly click due to different backgrounds and personalities.

"Morgan said she was going to convince Brady to move to a smaller house after Cali turns 18 so Cali would have to live with her mom or find her own place."

At a Halloween gathering, Morgan got a bit drunk and vented about Cali’s habits and the attention Brady gives her, which she felt was unfair compared to their new baby. When I asked more, she made it clear her plan was to pressure Cali to move out once she’s an adult by shrinking their living space.

"I messaged Brady right after the party to tell him what Morgan said because I was disturbed and felt Cali deserved to know."

Vince was uneasy when I told him what I did, saying Morgan might have trusted me as a friend. However, I felt that Cali’s wellbeing was more important than some “girl code,” and I worried this would cause problems down the line if Brady remained unaware of Morgan’s plans.

🏠 The Aftermath

After I informed Brady, tension arose between my husband and me, as he feels I might have stepped out of line. Brady is now aware of Morgan’s intentions, but it’s unclear how they will address the situation.

Morgan’s attitude has caused friction, and the family’s dynamic feels uncomfortable. I’m left feeling uneasy about the consequences of my choice to intervene directly.

The situation highlighted the underlying conflicts between Morgan and Brady, and between their approaches to parenting and family priorities.